The Lies We Tell Ourselves: Expose the Lie to Find Your Truth

We’ve all been there—those moments when we lie to ourselves. They might seem harmless at first, or perhaps they’re a comforting escape from a reality we’d rather not face. But over time, the lies we tell ourselves can become barriers that limit what we can achieve, how we relate to others, and how we grow spiritually, mentally, and physically. Every lie has a hidden truth, and the sooner we face it, the sooner we can unlock our full potential.

1. The Lies We Tell Ourselves: "I'm Not Good Enough"

One of the most common lies is the belief that we’re not good enough. Whether it's in our personal or professional life, we often undermine our abilities by thinking we lack the skills, intelligence, or talent needed to succeed. The truth is, you are MORE capable than you think. This self-doubt stems from fear and insecurity. The truth is, growth happens outside of our comfort zone. Most of us have untapped potential, but the fear of failure or judgment keeps us from trying. By recognizing that this lie is based on fear rather than fact, we can take steps toward self-improvement and embrace our abilities.

Steps to See the Truth:

- Challenge negative self-talk:  When you catch yourself thinking you're not good enough, question where that thought comes from. Is there evidence supporting it, or is it rooted in insecurity?

- Celebrate small wins: Focus on your achievements, no matter how small. Success builds confidence.

-  Take action despite fear: Growth comes from pushing boundaries. Set small goals that push you slightly out of your comfort zone and work toward bigger ones.

2. The Lies We Tell About Relationships: "I Can’t Keep a Partner. There must be something wrong with me. ”

In relationships, we often tell ourselves that our happiness depends on being with someone and not having a loving partner means there must be something wrong with you. Maybe there is, maybe you’re too much, too sensitive, too emotional, to traumatised and this can lead to unhealthy attachments or staying in toxic relationships out of fear of being alone. But understand that this doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, it just means you’re not in a relationship/ partnership that soothes your soul. Because at the end of the day, that’s what we all need, men and women, a partner we feel safe with. The truth is happiness comes from within. While relationships can enhance our lives, true happiness is an inside job. The lie that we can't live without someone keeps us dependent and blinds us to the strength and resilience we possess as individuals. When we recognize that happiness comes from self-love and personal growth, we become better partners, friends, and family members.

Steps to Find Your Truth:

-  Cultivate self-love:  Focus on building your own self-worth. Invest in activities and hobbies that bring you joy outside of your relationships.

-  Set healthy boundaries:  Don’t let the fear of losing someone stop you from establishing boundaries that protect your mental and emotional well-being.

-  Let go of co-dependency:  Embrace the idea that while relationships are important, they shouldn’t define your happiness.

3. The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Health and Fitness: "I Just Don’t Have Time"

When it comes to health and fitness, one of the most common lies is that we don’t have time. Whether it’s exercising, meal prepping, or meditating, the excuse of being too busy becomes a convenient barrier. The lie that we don’t have time is often a reflection of our priorities. The truth is, Effective time management and a commitment to our well-being, we can create time for health and fitness. It’s not about finding time; it’s about making it.

Steps to See Your Truth:

-  Evaluate your priorities:  What’s really important to you? If health is a priority, identify what activities take up your time and see where adjustments can be made.

-  Start small: You don’t need an hour at the gym every day to stay fit. Start with short, consistent workouts or meal prep in small steps.

-  Integrate fitness into your routine: Try walking during calls, stretching while watching TV, or prepping meals in batches. Small habits make a big difference.

How to Recognize and Break Free from Lies

1. Self-awareness: The first step to breaking free from lies is recognizing them. Pay attention to your thoughts and behaviours. Ask yourself, “Is this thought serving me, or is it holding me back?”

2. Challenge the lie:  When you identify a lie, dig deeper. What’s the underlying fear or belief behind it? Often, lies stem from past experiences, trauma, or societal conditioning.

3. Embrace vulnerability: It takes courage to face the truth. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and admit that you might have been wrong. This is where true growth happens.

4. Surround yourself with people who encourage growth, challenge you in healthy ways and remind you of your potential.

5. Take action: Truth without action is useless. Once you recognize the lie, take small steps to align with the truth. Whether it’s setting boundaries, pursuing a goal, or practicing self-care, action creates momentum.

The lies we tell ourselves are often a defence mechanism to protect us from discomfort, failure, or fear. But these lies also limit us, keeping us from achieving our potential and living authentically. By identifying these lies and uncovering the truths behind them, we can begin to dismantle the walls we’ve built and create a life that’s aligned with our deepest desires and true selves.

Awareness is the key, and the next step is action. What lie are you telling yourself today, and how can you start embracing the truth behind it?

With Love,

Ophelia Johnson